Saturday, November 15, 2008

The porch swing II

On Monday, November 3, 2008, I moved out. I asked Gerald (that's his name), if I could have the porch swing, since the cats and I were the only ones that sat on it. He said no. Without hesitation. Without a reason. I know him well enough to know the swing means nothing to him. It is just something for him to add to the rest of his "stuff".

He said he would make me another one sometime this winter. I learned how to tell when he is lying.

I live in a place where the porch swing would look great on the porch here. I could use it, instead of having it hang on his porch....unused. Collecting dust like the rest of his stuff.

Things I found out

I have been crushed by the lies of this man. In the months since I started this blog, I have seen that not only is he a liar, but he likes to drink as well.

Did I mention, he hadn't told me he was married before I moved out here? All he would tell me is that he had "trust" issues. He wouldn't go into detail before I moved to Montana. I can tell you we talked for hours, and hours, and hours. Never once did he say, "I'm married and have filed for divorce." He just told me he couldn't talk about the trust issues, until I was out here by him.

I was here a couple of days when I asked him what the trust issue was. He asked me if I was sure I wanted to know. I said yes. I know as sure as I am sitting here, typing this, that he would not have told me otherwise. Then he told me he was married. He told me they hadn't lived together since about August 2007. She had moved her things back to her house. He called her "Psycho Bitch". Said she was evil and had done the most vicious thing to him he had ever experienced in his life.

I was devastated. But, we were in love. So, I continued the relationship. We did a lot of things together. Picked mushrooms for hours, shopped, hiked, laughed, loved, gardened.

Seems like once his soon to be ex-wife came back to town, things changed between us. Oh, she had been in California fighting wild fires for the summer.

Another thing that seemed to change things between us was that I got a job. Not the one he wanted me to get, but it was good for paying my bills. I really thought my having a job would be a good thing. He had told me how is ex-wife, soon to be ex-wife and other girlfriends hadn't worked. I thought, how refreshing this must be for this man, a woman that works!! Silly me.