Monday, September 22, 2008

My story is simple

Yep, it is simple. I met a guy, we fell in love, and I moved 1500 miles away from family and friends to be with him. Only for him to decide he wasn't in love with me. Well, it took him a couple of months to decide that. To say I was devastated is, well an understatement for sure.

I got the I love you like a friend, but I'm not in love with you speech. I want us to be friends because we think alike and like to do the same things. Huh!!??!!

I'll go back to the beginning. In January I joined eHarmony for what I hoped was the last time in my life. I had joined off and on for a couple of years. And, each time I joined, I got sick to my stomach....because, I dreaded the process. In January it was different. I felt I was going to succeed this time. I wasn't sick to my stomach.

The middle of February, I was matched with "him". I saw something in his face, his shy smile, his profile caught my attention. I had been matched over my time on eHarmony with almost 1,000 men. This guy stood out. So, for only the second time in my eHarmony history, I initiated contact. I wanted to get to know this man.

As with my matches that I communicate with, I checked other dating sites, to see if he was out there trolling. I found him on Yahoo Personals. His profile was kind of the same, a little more detail. On eHarmony he said he didn't smoke, on Yahoo Personals he said he smoked sometimes. I know that seems minor, but I have asthma and couldn't even think of being around smoke. He also said on eHarmony that he only drank a few times a year, you'll read later why this is important.

It took him a few weeks to answer my first set of questions. I nudged him, because I really wanted to get to know him. I felt he was the "one". And he lived in a part of the country I was totally in love with, Montana. Glacier NP is my favorite place on earth.


MontanaScarecrow said...

I know this sounds weird, but my storiy is very similar. I met a girl and moved from Pennsylvania to Montana. we tried datng but it worked out better if we were friends and we are. Best friend that work together, but live in different cities. We share so many intrests that is funny sometimes.
We spend a lot of time traveling around Montanaenjoying the state.
Hope to hear from you sometime. Joe

its_me_in_montana said...

Hi Joe,

Thanks for the comment. Our stories sure do start out similar, but I don't think I'll be hearing from the man I moved here for.

I'm glad you made friends with the woman you moved out here for. Friends are important when you are so far away from family and friends "back home".

I do love Montana. Your pictures are beautiful. In the one of you with your profile, were you on the highline trail in Glacier?

Have a great day, Boni