Monday, November 15, 2010

Years ago,

when my nieces and nephews started dating, I gave them specific instructions that they were to find out if the person they were dating had a single uncle. Ya know, for their ol' aunt. Then as I got older, I changed it from Uncle to Dad. Now, sad to say, I have changed it again...this time to Grandfather! Mind you my nieces and nephews range in age from 17 to 39, (this is not counting Grand nieces and nephews). Before long it could be Great Grandfather!! :(

"I'm getting married!!!"

That's what my youngest niece's Facebook status read yesterday. Very cool! You betcha I clicked "Like" on that one.

I remember the day, 23 1/2 years ago, when my niece was born. I remember the times her folks would have me babysit her, and it was more like she was the one doing the babysitting. She was a cool baby.

Before she started school, we would do things together. Ice Capades, the circus, movies. I took her on her first train ride, from one Chicago suburb to another. When we reached our destination we went to a movie. I can still see her face filled with wonder as the train chugged down the tracks. She thought that was the best thing. So, did I.

When she started going to school, our fun times happened less and less. Until I moved to Wisconsin, because she spent her summers there. One time we took a road trip to the International Wolf Center, in Ely, MN. It was a good time of camping, laughing and enjoying nature. Then she started working, and became too old to come to Wisconsin for the summer. We saw each other less, and less. She moved to Georgia. I moved to Montana. Life happened.

Now she has met a wonderful man, fallen in love and is getting married! Very cool! You betcha I asked her if her fiance's grandfather was single!


Anonymous said...

I hope she too remembers all those wonderful times spent with you! After reading down your blog, my eyes often welled with tears yet I also found myself chuckling from triggered memories. You are wonderful, I hope you are enjoying your journey, and perhaps we shall see each other again. All my love to you always virgo sister and godmother of our buns!

its_me_in_montana said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you for having such a wonderful daughter! Our buns, sigh!

Thank you for the kind words. Some days my journey is a rough one, but I trudge on. Thanks too for stopping by. Love to you also:)

Fram Actual said...

A nice memory and well written, Boni.

As for the marital element to the story, all I can say is good luck.

I am slowly coming to the conclusion that the single life is preferable, especially for someone like me who has been in a failed marriage twice. I suppose that means I am becoming increasingly lazy, because a relationship seems to be more work than it is worth.

its_me_in_montana said...

Fram, thank you for stopping by.

I have to admit, most days I agree with you about single life. What makes it hard for me is that I don't want to be single forever. I can't accept that it is my destiny. I have found that even when a relationship seems easy, it is just an illusion. At least that has been my history of late.

Lazy, nah. Realistic at the moment, yeah. Perhaps some day we will both be caught unaware, by someone that sneaks up on us when we let our guards down. Ha! Okay, I've stopped laughing. Hey, a girl can dream can't she?!

As a side note, when I was leaving work today I saw a car covered in snow. It was a Mitsubishi with MN plates! I thought of you, and was going to wait around to see who got in the car. I decided to get my butt home instead. Was it the elusive Fram?

Peace to you Fram, really, I mean it.