Sunday, November 30, 2008

Hate, what is it good for?

Hate - verb (used with an object), to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest; to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry.

I admit, I have used the word hate too much lately. So much so, that I am tired of hating or saying I hate Gerald. I don't hate him, and probably never did. I was hurt and lashing out. Besides, I didn't like what the hate was doing to me. The person I was becoming, because I used the word hate.

I hear other people use the word hate. Some people say how they hate another person, because of the other person's behavior. I observe these people. What I often see is the hater doing the same behaviors the hatee does. It makes me wonder, does the hater hate themselves? Or, do they not realize they are doing the behavior too?

So, I am done hating. I don't like it, don't wanna do it anymore. When I catch myself starting to say I hate something, or hate Gerald, I stop myself. When it comes down to it, Gerald probably couldn't give a damn if I hate him or not. And, if it isn't going to hurt him a little bit, why should I hurt myself by feeling it? (I'm sure there have been research studies done on the affects of hate on a person's health....I love myself too much to get sick over him).

4 comments:

MontanaScarecrow said...

Yes, I would agree. Hate is a srtong word. I usually never use it. I say tha I'm not overjoyed with people or what thet have done.

On other things I want to wish a Merry Christmas. and a great new year. Joe

b of sbmet said...

I'm so proud of you. You are not a hateful person and I'm glad you have rediscovered that also. I love you. b of sbmet.

Anonymous said...

Hi there. Not every man is like that Gerald is I hope you know that by now. He is an ass for haveing up-rooted you with a promise that failed. Yeas hate is a very strong word but I would use it when it comes to him. There is someone out there that deserves you and you them just make take a little more time. You are a very good person I know that personally.

Anonymous said...

I tend to use the hate but I never mean it. It's just an easy word to use!